What Works: Dealing with loss, opening to gain

It seems, this week, so many I know have lost something. Whether it’s a job, health, a relationship, or an expectation, loss is real. It’s emotionally hard. In some cases, it’s a crisis. Loss of a client can hurt or kill a business if a contingency plan isn’t in place. Losing a job or a partner can be life altering. So, how can you recover faster?

Critical Opportunity Theory, my creation you may also know as Crappertunity, isn’t just about recovery. It’s about recognizing where you are right now. What is happening right now? You may be dealing well, moving forward in whatever way you can. Or, you may be under the covers, crying, wondering why life beat you up again.

No matter which way you are going, it's not wrong. It just is. The key is to become aware as soon as possible of where you are. Only then can you see what is possible versus impossible. And, when you see that, you can consciously plan a path forward versus grasping for straws.

Here are some questions to ask yourself to determine some opportunity from downward spiral behaviors. Often, in crisis, we reach for these things because it works. For each of these questions, when you answer them, ask yourself “Why? What is possible, instead?”

What am I denying?
What do I feel not good enough about?
What do I feel too good to do?
What am I avoiding doing?
What am I distracting myself with? (Sex, drugs, alcohol, other projects)
Who am I blaming? (Including myself)
Who do I feel victimized by?
When do I isolate?
When do I complain, gripe, rage, with others?
What do I expect when I do this?
What feels hopeless about this situation?
Where do I feel powerless?
Where am I not taking action?
How am I looking for a miracle?
What is making me press on unnecessarily or resisting change?

Your Critical Opportunity is around the corner. My challenge to you is to reach for awareness of your situation, consciousness of your environment, and humble about the one thing you can control – YOURSELF. You have all the power you need not to “get over” this, but to work through it and come out on the other side with more opportunity, abundance, and happiness than you would have had if you hadn’t faced this in the first place.

Things may seem bad now. I want to encourage you and tell you that disruption doesn’t have to turn into corruption. Your life is in your hands. You have the power to take this situation and turn it into something absolutely amazing. If you want help, you know where to find me. Think it. Say it. Live it! The floor is yours, Carson City.

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COMING IN JUNE! Start your week off right by listening to “Drive Time” with Diane Dye Hansen on KNVC 95.1 from 6 am to 8 am on Monday mornings. Happy, motivational music, positive spins on negative news, interviews with people in the community who can bring joy into your life. Live coaching in studio! Email diane@whatworkscoaching.com if you would like to be featured as a guest and have something GREAT to share with the Carson Valley.

ENTREPRENEURS! Spring into action on your business! Entrepreneur’s Assembly, Carson City chapter meets Wednesday, May 9, 2018 in The Studio at Adams Hub for Innovation and every second Wednesday of each month. Free mastermind group voted Entrepreneur’s Assembly Chapter of the Year 2017. 5:30 p.m. This session hosted by Karol Hines, Executive Director of Entrepreneurs Assembly

BE ON THE CRAPPERTUNITY INTERVENTION TV SHOW. Diane Dye Hansen’s show, Crappertunity Intervention, will be shooting late July/early August in Los Angeles, Calif. If you can make it to LA and want help with your company’s critical situation, I want to help you. Get the Strategic Action Plan gift at www.crappertunity.com and receive an invitation/application the moment Diane sends them!

NEED GUIDANCE? GET IT FREE. Motivation Monday returns to Adams Hub for Innovation May 21. One date, April 30, remains before a short hiatus. Email grow@adamshub.com to schedule two free 30-minute sessions or one free hour to help you with your career, business, or life. If you are experiencing a critical situation or transition, please take Diane’s offer for this help.

GET HELP FOR YOUR TEAM/LEADERSHIP. Need motivation for your team? Customized talks, workshops, and consulting programs are available. Schedule a complimentary consultation at whatworkscoaching.com.

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Diane Dye Hansen is the Chief Inspiration Officer of What Works Coaching, an individual and organizational coaching and consulting firm based in Carson City, Nevada. She has 20 years of experience working with top corporations, growing businesses, motivated entrepreneurs, and individuals hungry for a fresh start. She is also the creator of DOCS Theory, also known as The Theory of CrappertunityTM, a mindset and change theory which defines the moment crisis creates more opportunity than would have existed without the crisis.

Diane holds a Bachelor’s in Business Administration and Marketing from Cal State San Bernardino and a Masters in Communication Management from the University of Southern California. She is also the Chief Executive Officer of What Works Recruitment, a company which specializes in filling hard-to-fill positions and fitting talent with culture. Her column appears every Monday, and sometimes Tuesday, in Carson Now.